Room 124 Red Newsletter

ROOM ANNOUNCEMENTS

Homework:  As you take a walk to your car, around your block or to GBN, stop and take a look to see if you could find a rock on the floor.  Let your child bring it to school and he/she could tell us all about the rock he/she found.

Recycling:  We will be talking about recycling in a few weeks, if you could please bring recycling items, such as: water bottles, lids, caps, ribbon, diaper box, etc…

 Vacation:  Liz will be on vacation next week.  Her sub will be Stacy and Cheryl.    

TIP OF THE WEEK

42 THINGS WE NEED TO TELL OUR KIDS

MICHELLE HORTON

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice,” said author Peggy O’Mara, and subsequently thousands of Pinterest boards.

And it’s true.

The things we say — not only with our mouths, but with our tone, actions, and mannerisms — affect our kids. They’ll hold our words in that deep-down place where all kids do: Down where we keep our sense of worth, our feeling of being “enough,” our fears and doubts and self-love.

There’s a real resistance to the “self-esteem campaigns” I was raised with in the 90s — the “You are a special snowflake” sentiments that, while well-intentioned, are nothing more than a punchline now:

“Attention all whiny, entitled, self-centered Millennials — you’re not a special snowflake, yah hear me?”

Okay, okay. Maybe special is a bad word choice — although, I’ll be honest, my son is pretty darn special to me. Not the most special person in the world, and not more special than any other child, but his specialness is still there; I see it. Instead of using airy, ethereal words to raise up our kids (“you can do ANYTHING!”), maybe we just try kind words. Loving words. True words. Words that strengthen and reassure, not delude. Words our kids can pull out like tools, whether they’re 5 or 55.

With that in mind, here are some loving words and phrases I’d like to say more often — words and phrases that all kids deserve to hear:

1. It’s okay to be angry. I can help you calm down.

2. It’s okay to be sad. I will sit with you.

3. It’s okay to feel disappointed. I’ve felt it, too.

4. It’s okay.

5. I like who you are.

6. You are important to me.

7. I’m listening.

8. I’m here.

9. You don’t have to make me happy.

10. You are more than your emotions; they will pass.

11. I can handle your emotions, no matter how big they are.

12. Yes, I will watch you play.

13. Yes, I will join you.

14. Yes, I will lay with you.

15. You make me smile.

16. I believe in you.

17. I trust you.

18. You can handle this.

19. You aren’t perfect, and neither am I.

20. But our love is perfect.

21. Thank you.

22. I’m proud of you.

23. I’m happy you’re here.

24. It’s okay to make mistakes.

25. Take your time.

26. You are strong.

27. I’m proud to be your mom.

28. You are brave.

29. I forgive you.

30. Cry. Let it out.

31. I’ve been thinking about you.

32. I missed you today.

33. It’s okay to change your mind.

34. It’s okay to ask for help.

35. I hear you.

36. I see you.

37. I’m sorry.

38. You make my life better.

39. You are capable.

40. You are worthy.

41. You matter.

42. I love you, always, just as you are.

There’s a Jewish mystic story about an old Rabbi who taught his disciples to memorize the teachings and place the holy words on their hearts.

“Why on our hearts, and not in them?” one student asked.

“We put the words on our hearts, so that some day when our hearts break they will fall in.”

And so I hope to put these words on my son’s heart, too. So that one day when he questions his worth or feels unsure — when he feels his heavy heart caving in, for all of the reasons a heart might break— my words will fall inside.

Maybe then he’ll remember that he is okay and loved, just as he is. Maybe he’ll hear my words as his own. Maybe he’ll even pass them on.

TOPIC OF THE WEEK

Pets

Our focus was on pets this week.  We made a folder of the pictures that were emailed to us.  We also had a show and tell about the pictures.  The children were so excited to talk about their pet.  The activities that were set up for the children to explore had to do with pets.  We had a designated area as a pet shop.  The children were able to go to the pet shop and pick out a pet and care for the pet.  The children painted a paper plate and sprinkled shredded foam (the art is hung on the wall if you would like to take a look).  Since cats enjoy balls of yarn, we painted with yarn on construction paper.  We had balls of yarn in the sensory table, where the children took the ends and unrolled the yarn.  We had a fishbowl filled with gravel, water and different types of fish.  Some of the fish floated and some sank to the bottom of the bowl.  After reading a book on what kind of pet to get, we asked the children, “If you could have any pet, what kind of pet would you like?” the answers are posted on the board next to the exit door. 

 NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC: Rocks

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND-ELSI, STEPHANIE, AND LIZ